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Before we got married I told him I didn’t want to have kids with someone or spend the rest of my life with someone who smoked cigarettes. He told me he would quit. I explained to him that it doesn’t just "happen", and he needs to start trying and cutting back, but he insisted that the very day of our wedding would be the day he would quit. I begged him to take it slowly and start a few months earlier, because it would be hard. He had only smoked for 2 years and thought he wasn’t seriously addicted and could easily stop. Needless to say, he never tried to quit. On our wedding day, he swore on our marriage (in his vows, in front of everyone) to quit smoking for his health, for my health, and for the future of our children. After all this had been said and done, I consented to him smoking 1 cigar a week for a while, before cutting back to only 2 a month and so on. I knew he couldn’t just STOP and I really wanted to help him. I also got him a pipe and some tobacco for special occasions. The main thing was he needed to stop smoking a pack of cigarettes a day. I let him know this from the get-go, and he agreed.

Fast forward a few months. I catch him outside smoking with his friends at a Halloween party. I was furious and I was so hurt. He said he was sorry and that he was very ashamed of himself and that I had every right to be hurt because of this. I reminded him that I never argued with him about his alcohol consumption. I don’t argue with him about texting/calling his old girl friends. I even gave him the idea of taking his little brother to a strip club in a few months when he turns 18! The only thing I’ve ever had a problem with was his smoking.

A few months ago I started finding lighters all over the house. They’d be on the back of the couch, in the washing machine/dryer, in his pants pockets, in his coat pockets…. everywhere. He had also stopped buying his pipe tobacco and cigars. I immediately became suspicious and questioned him about it – he denied it and even made me smell his fingers so he could prove he wasn’t smoking. I let it go and felt ashamed that I had bothered him about it, but the signs kept coming up. We were lying in bed one night and I asked him, and I made him swear to tell me the truth. He looked me straight in the eyes and told me he wasn’t smoking and that I needed to stop accusing him of it.

Last night, I walked outside to ask him to fix our smoke detector, and he flicked something very quickly out of his hand. I knew exactly what it was. I immediately started crying and he got very angry with me, telling me that his secret smoking habit was the equivalent of me keeping a diary. He said he wants to hide this from me so it is "his" thing. He said he doesn’t want to tell me "everything" because I’m never honest with him (when it comes to my diary). I thought this was a stupid point to bring up and told him, nearly choking on tears and snot and spit, that I was in more pain because he was lying to my face and smoking behind my back.

He won’t give it up, and he thinks that since I "really know" about it now, he can continue to do it.

Please help me. This has been such an emotional day for me. What would you do if you’re husband had done this to you?

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So far I have only traveled in the border-less schengen zone and even when going into UK with a train, they only scanned the luggage, I got patted because the metal detector went off (it was the coins, I believe) and that was it. Now I’ve been reading about the customs and I didn’t even realize that for some countries perfumes have to be declared. Why? The alcohol content isn’t that high in perfumes. The thing is I’m a perfume enthusiast and I have 6 Guerlain bottles, 30ml (1oz) each and for example, for South Korea the limit is 2oz for personal use.

What do they do if you have more than the limit? What happens when you declare anyway? They register the items? And what about the laptop? It’s really all for personal purposes, however I am moving to Cambodia and so I will leave some of the items there, go back, end the renting contract, etc, and go on with life in Cambodia.

Forget about paying 8 bucks a beer, i’m bringing liquor, but a flask would set off the metal detector. How would you do it?

–>If I were Leader of the Free World the first issue I would address would be safety in schools. I would focus a lot on weapon possession and bullying. These are some of the most important problems in the United States, but there are many ways to prevent these conflicts. Children are our future, and exposure to violence could mold them into the wrong type of individuals to represent our country.
–>Bullying is a major issue in our schools. Children miss school just to avoid being tormented by a bully. Almost seven percent of eighth graders miss school once a month because of this. About half of the students who physically harm another sent a threat previously to the same student. The bullies are victims, too, because they are also harming themselves. They are more likely to smoke, abuse drugs, drink alcohol, and physically get into fights. Most violent outbreaks occur during “transition times” such as between classes, before and after school, and at lunch in the cafeteria. Peer pressure is a factor in violence and bullying.
–>Weapon possession is also a huge issue in our schools. Weapon possession leads to huge tragedies like school shootings and murders. In a CDC (Center for Disease Control and Prevention) 2007 survey, 5.9% of high school students reported having a weapon at school in 30 days. According to the United States Secret Service and United States Education Department, many teenage shooters felt depressed, excluded, and bullied. Their plans were premeditated, and they often tell others of these plans. They simply wanted attention, but were neglected of it and so they got negative attention by killing innocent people. One of the most notorious shootings was the Columbine High School Massacre. Two seniors, Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold, killed 12 students, one teacher, and they both committed suicide. Around 25 students were injured. If I were Leader of the Free World, I would do all I could to prevent another tragedy of this nature. It could have been prevented, too.
–>Students with weapons at school, bullying, and violence; it’s horrible. It can all be prevented to an extent. Metal detectors at school entries are respectful to students’ privacy and could detect weapons. More teacher involvement with students who need attention, or are displaying abnormal behavior, would help, also. Search dogs could find harmful substances in lockers. If everyone has a bus to ride home, there can’t be any violence on a walk home or to school. There can be programs, activities, and assemblies about bullying, violence, and accepting others.
–>This is why I would focus on school safety if I were Leader of the Free World. Children’s welfare is one of the most important things. They are our future. I can summarize with this quotation by Jodi Rell. “At the end of the day, the goals are simple: safety, and security.”

It’s an essay for social studies. I’m only in 8th grade, and I’ve only ever done one other essay. I’ve never been taught formally on how to draft an essay. Is it OK to just hit "Tab" when you’re indenting? That’s what I did on MS Word but the indents looked pretty big on there. For some reason it wouldn’t let me indent on here, so the arrows represent indents.
I replaced "a lot" with "first".
And actually, when I was looking up the facts I rephrased it and put "premeditated" and "violent outbreaks", on the first one it just said their plans were planned months before it happened, I put premeditated in there because I was trying to finish my notes faster. And on the second one it said "Most school-associated violent deaths occur during transition times – before and after the school day and during lunch."(Which I suppose I could’ve changed a bit more)
And the bullying paragraph is now opened with:
Bullying is a major issue in our schools. Children miss school just to avoid being tormented by a bully. According to the National Center for Education Statistics, almost seven percent of eighth graders miss school once a month because of this.
But, there were about four different sources on the website that I got the facts from. They are all lengthy organizations. Do I include them all or can I just put one?
Also, I changed this:
Most violent outbre

It started on New Year’s Eve when I had a terrible migraine. (And no, alcohol was not involved.) I ended up going to bed that night at 9:00 because the room was spinning and I was very nauseous. I had a hard time sleeping because anytime I moved I thought I was going to be sick. And then in the middle of the night, I had (sorry if this is too much info) bad diarrhea. But what was most strange, my mother suffered the EXACT symptoms that night – she in her bedroom, me in mine. So initially I thought carbon monoxide. But that can’t be; we have carbon monoxide detectors in every room, including the basement. And we felt fine all day.

I was fine for a few days until last night, when the SAME thing happened to me. I had migraines, dizziness, (diarrhea), nausea, and the chills. But my mother was fine. But tonight, my mother now has it again but I don’t.

Now, we’re both fine during the day. What’s up??? Now I read that the symptoms are signs of pregnancy. Impossible: my mother’s almost 50 and I’m a 21 year-old male.

I was just wondering if anyone has any idea what the cause could be. Thanks!